Real love makes life worth living. It brings out your joyfulness to the fullest. You accept each other the way that each of you are. You encourage each other to become better, more satisfied and more fulfilled. The happiest couples are those that accept that partners and relationships have their limitations.
Real love supports and comforts you when you need it. It provides an encouraging push when you feel stuck. You feel secure, protected and free to grow in your own life. You plan, anticipate and cherish those moments. You make time for the things you love and do them together. You would rather be together than apart. You make time and space for your relationship to flourish. You keep rediscovering and recreating yourself and your relationship.
Real love is worth fighting for. It is worth working smarter and harder to achieve. No matter what you believe, anyone who wants to have a loving relationship can have one. If you haven't had much success in relationships, it is not because there is something wrong with you. It is not because you are not deserving of love. You just haven't had the skills to really learn to connect with someone.
Nothing in life that is worth having comes easily, but relationships don't have to stressful. They should never cause you more stress than joy. Believe in yourself, believe in the power of love and believe that you can truly have the love that you want. Will your relationship be perfect all the time? Of course not. This is life- not a fairy tale :-)