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"Can I ever find a man
who will love me for who I am?"
Jennifer was 28 years old and just coming out of a divorce when she came to me for counseling. After years of living with someone who constantly berated her, she began to view herself as the flawed, undesirable person her ex-husband told her she was. Three months after the divorce, she began to develop a tremendous fear that she would never find a man who would love her for who she was.
The first thing I did was to teach her how not to allow her fears to make her feel lonely, worthless or defective ( How to Find the Man of Your Dreams) pointing out that the way she viewed herself was of utmost importance in finding a man who would want to marry her. Then, I guided her towards discovering what she really wanted in a man and equipped her to be prepared once he showed up in her life.
At first, she did not believe the plan would work -- but she stuck with it anyway. After 5 months, she not only had a clear idea of what kind of man she was looking for, but this time she was also convinced that it would happen. Then one day, she met a man who seemed perfect for her -- except that he didn't satisfy one of the criteria she had established as her "non-negotiable" requirements in a man. She dared to remain true to her heart and not make compromises. Eventually, she ended that relationship -- even though she feared she might be making a mistake.
A week later, she met a wonderful man at her church with all the qualities she wanted, including the fact that he was tall (which was important to her). They started dating, and within 9 months, they were engaged to be married. They sent me a wedding invitation that I keep in my drawer together with other invitations of all my clients whose dreams have come true.
How to Find the Man of Your Dreams
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